After another social event that I attended with girlfriends, I found that he had done the same thing again. –Barb A man who is openly defying his two-year girlfriend to stay active on Match. The shareholders would have every right to demand an ouster. I do hate to be the one to burst your bubble, Barb.
USING that site for its intended purposes – to meet new women? I’ll be the first to admit – online dating can be addicting – especially when you’re getting a lot of attention.
Put it this way: I don’t go to Amazon to browse books. There IS a temptation, for both men and women, to try to continually “trade up”.
He has told me about some of them and still hears from many of them. Whenever I have to go to a social function, it shows that he has been on reviewing matches sent to him.
Since we have dated for almost two years, I asked him to cancel his online dating account. I told him it was upsetting and we had a little verbal disagreement. But your relationship does suggest a level of patience and tolerance that far exceeds the norm. Imagine a company that lets its CEO cook the books and embezzle from them because he’s a smart, charismatic guy.
Before you decide to do anything, talk with your boyfriend.
Simply tell him what you've told us—without using an accusatory tone—and see what he has to say.
However, I'd hold off on telling your man you did some reconnaissance work by visiting the actual site and poking around his profile page.
No one likes to feel spied on, especially if it turns out that he simply forgot he even signed up for the dating site.
Dear Sugar, I have been dating someone for almost two months now, and I'm really starting to fall for him. Dear I'm Hurt Helen, I don't blame you for having hurt feelings by the fact that your boyfriend still claims to be single, which is why I advise you to broach the subject with him ASAP.