Once you feel comfortable enough with your correspondent, or perhaps when you feel that the email dialogue has gone about as far as it can go, it’s time for a phone call.There is no formula for the number of email messages that must pass before phone numbers are exchanged.
Now, figuring out what to say to him once he requests to TALK as opposed to TEXT puts many teens and twenty-something’s into a space of oblivion.
No one wants to place themselves in the position of being the one to call, but feeling extremely uncomfortable trying to figure out HOW to fill those long, silent pauses.
Talking on emails is easy, but exchanging countless emails is certainly not the same as dating.
In order for online dating to really work and eventually turn into a real relationship, you need to move the conversation from email to phone - and eventually in person.
If possible begin with calls between cell phones as your home number can be used to find your home address.
Of course this will cost a little more but you can’t put a dollar value on safety!
The easiest and most common convo starter is to ask, “what are you doing?
” — but what do you say to follow up when he simply responds with that one word reply…
After any first date you are somewhat excited about, as soon as you finish recapping the night to your friends (“He said he’s into hiking and the outdoors, but I think we could work through it? Just do the industry standard desperately grasping for an inside joke from the night before text. I think it’s cute even to do the “had a great time/[joke referencing something obscure from the night]/hope you got home ok” text that night, but I personally like that sort of thing.