I’m fat, and I spent a lot of years trying to hide that (don’t know why; it’s not like I was fooling anyone).
All that time believing I was less than or unworthy of love and affection has taken its toll, so this piece really resonated.
However, combatting societal body negativity takes more than just individual self-love.
Studies suggest that seeing body diversity more often can actually make people more likely to consider larger bodies more aspirational and attractive.
We can deny it to our friends as much as we like, but we are increasingly a nation of fatties.
The EU court ruling on fatness as a disability means that it will no longer be possible to fire an employee for being fat.
When teenage girls insult each other, fat is the first word they use when they really want to be hurtful. They’ll even use fat before they use the word slutty.
Because encompassed within the word “fat” are a million other insults.
No matter how big or small you are, it can’t hurt to hear that. I’m a fat woman who has had lots and lots of awesome sex almost exclusively with partners much smaller than myself.
When I met my current partner a year ago, I was at my fattest, about 150 lbs heavier than he is, making our sex the most drastic in terms of size difference relative to my past partners. There are many misconceptions about how fat people have sex, especially when one partner is fat and the other isn’t.
Some dysfunctional people harbor feelings of guilt over their sexual needs, or lack the skill or desire to stimulate their partner.
Even mild anxiety can impede or disable sexual performance.
Additionally, many women who do have smaller partners tell me they don’t totally enjoy sex because they feel self-conscious, embarrassed, or unfulfilled because they can’t “let go” during sex.