Sure some may work out, hit the weights and look strong but they lament that women do judge a book by its cover.
With the decline of traditional arranged marriages in Vietnamese culture, men and women are being entrusted to find a suitable mate for themselves.
However, because maintaining a positive reputation and showing respect for family is still highly regarded in Vietnam, etiquette rules for dating are in place to ensure that men and women find respectful, virtuous and family-oriented partners to marry.
And now with the proliferation of online dating apps and websites, it can be even more daunting.
is difficult enough because of cultural and stereotypical challenges.
During the group dates, the man and the woman are expected to refrain from showing each other physical affection, as it is looked down on in the Vietnamese culture.
In the Vietnamese culture, the woman is expected to be submissive and never initiate a courtship with a man, because it is seen as being too forward and improper behavior for a woman.
Women who have no Asian male friends or interactions are limited to societal and media portrayal of Asian men which isn't flattering.
Remember, it was just January of this year when comedian Steve Harvey joked about how no one would want to date Asian men.
Unfortunately, this kind of gender racism will continue unless we see Asian men in leading romantic roles.
The most prominent one I can recall was Jet Li's character in the 2000 movie, "Romeo Must Die" where he was initially to kiss the late Aaliyah but the ending was re-scripted to a hug when producers feared mainstream American audiences would find the kiss too uncomfortable.
For many Americans, at least, having a Vietnamese girlfriend or boyfriend still has something of the thrill of ‘sleeping with the enemy’.