Contrary to the widespread misconception, addiction is not a moral issue, a failure or a character flaw.
If you believe that addiction is somehow shameful or to do with a lack of willpower, you may want to think twice about dating a recovering addict.
They don’t need to be taken care of; they learned how to do that for themselves.
It isn’t something you’ll find written in most recovery literature, however, it is important to your health, your well being and your sobriety.
Following this advice isn’t on the agenda of most newly sober individuals though.
Then they drop a bomb: “I used to be a drug addict.” They may as well have said, “I’m married.” But does one partner being in recovery automatically spell doom for a relationship?
Healthy Recovery, Healthy Relationships Most recovering addicts aren’t strangers to therapy and, as a result, have spent a lot of time working on themselves and their relationships.
—do not become involved with someone in recovery from substance abuse unless they have been clean and sober for at least one year.
And if you are newly sober you should know that one of the worst things a person can do in early recovery is jump headfirst into a romance.Because recovery is a lifelong process, recovering addicts are in a perpetual state of self-improvement. Join THOUSANDS of our Sober Singles and find Sober Dates at the ORIGINAL Online 12 Step Dating Site for Alcoholics Anonymous Singles, Narcotics Anonymous Singles and ALL Single Sober Adults in every 12 Step Program of Recovery. Meet Single Sober Men and Women locally or around the Globe for Sober Dates, Love or Friends.Occasionally, very occasionally, it’s a different story. Chips with everything AA is crazy about chips – or 'sobriety coins'. No two groups are the same Because AA is self-organising at the grass roots level, groups define themselves differently. Others are ‘participation meetings’, where everyone has a chance to share. There are men only meetings, women only meetings, and meetings for any variety of LGBT. Or so meetings like to chant at the end of the session, after reciting the Serenity Prayer. But it’s a refrain in the fellowship that AA works better than aversive medicine (the dreaded antabuse, Ebola in tablet form), white coats (cognitive intelligence therapy), or sermons from self-appointed experts who’ve never themselves been there but know all about it (which, alas, includes most of the medical profession. Nowadays, while sitting on appointment committees, I've seen personal statements in which the job seeker says they’ve been through AA (to counteract any mention of their drinking days in confidential letters of reference). God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference. The most upmarket AA meeting I’ve attended was in Gstaad, Switzerland. You get a version of these small, key-ring medallions after 90 days, six months, and every calendrical milestone thereafter. I’ve had it thirty years and my thumb has worn the inscribed serenity prayer off its surface. Don’t try to work anyone else’s programme, is the guiding motto. Not exclusive (all are welcome), just self-selecting. But, of course, because of the anonymity rule, and no follow-up in the outside world, no one’s really that sure. Instruction about alcoholism at medical schools is abysmal). Never buy a car from someone in your group Likewise, never date anyone in your group. Recovering addicts need to attend a self-help support group meeting, call their sponsor and have sponsees out of necessity.