It is our responsibility to be clear with others about what we will tolerate, and what we won’t tolerate.
These boundaries clarify expectations, much like rules in a game.
The problem here is that the line keeps getting erased and redrawn closer and closer to the water's edge and then we wonder why at some point we find ourselves drowning.
I can think of no more important skill to help us relate in a healthy way than setting boundaries.
You can learn healthy communication skills, and that will help.
Don't misunderstand me, I am my client's cheerleader and not lacking in compassion, but the facts are the facts.
I hear all the time from clients how dating after divorce is difficult, and my response is always the same, "You make it difficult." While they sit in utter shock and motionless, unable to grab their purse and head for the door, I continue to explain, rather quickly, my frankness.
But, if you don’t know how to define and maintain your personal and relational boundaries, you’ll be in serious trouble.
That was the topic of my last article, concerning living with paper fences.You can learn how to manage conflict—that will be of tremendous value.You can learn to pray and laugh together, and that certainly will have powerful results. Hard as it may be for some to accept, boundaries whether it’s an absence of them or not enough are the core thread of issues in relationships, especially where you find yourself lamenting the behaviour of the other party…but still taking it…Based on reading comments and speaking with some readers either by phone or email (through consultations for example), here are the first four (of ten) fundamentals for understanding and establishing boundaries in relationships: I noted that some people have a real problem with this as if the idea of having some boundaries is an opportunity to cut off every guy before they’ve even been given a chance.It’s the whole ‘oh everybody makes mistakes’ mentality which is too narrow a view and also completely missing the point.’ If you have no boundaries, it’s likely that ‘saying’ something is not the sole answer to establishing boundaries – you need to be a woman of action.